Becareful of Who you Send your Pictures to.

Do you know what is the all-time reason for people's downfall? betrayal. A lot of time people are betrayed by the people whom they really trust and would do anything for... ask me why and I wouldn't be able to answer why, I guess its jealous but some people do make mistakes  trying to do right, not all the time, sometimes.

As we fall in love and in lust with different people we young people tend to want to show our love in all sorts of things, be it to differ or stand-out sometimes to fit in. Some people do tattoos, some stay together, some give thier money, some runaway together, some cook, send pictures to remind each other of special moments. Nowadays people date in the internet, social networks, some have long distance relationships, and the one thing that keep thier relationships going besides talking, are pictures, a person's appearence is very important in love, when you fall for someone you want to have an idea of who you love.

As a result, people tend to exchange pictures and videos of themselves to give thier partners an idea of how they look like, the sad part about everything is that, even teenagers do such things without adult supervision and at the same time send disturbing content that contains pornographic pictures, sometimes these boyfriends or girlfriend tend to use these pictures and videos to spite the other person by posting them on the social networks, causing a huge stir about you.

To some people these things are good and doing such things to young girls as a way of "exposing" them very nice, be warned, not everyone who says that they are your friend are actually your friends some just want to use you to get thier shit in order, than drop you like a hot potato.

NB:

Don't send pictures of yourself naked, especially if your face is shown on the pic!

I wrote this in my last blog but I must say, I'm proud to be South African because it is alive with posssibilities. Just the other day I was watching Top Billing and to my suprise I saw my favourite South African designer, David Tlale. Guess what he was doing? he was showing at Mercedez Benz New York fashion week!

Yeah I know it quite a big deal, I can now say that David Tlale has officially made it, the guy was showing in New York Fashion week a couple of weeks ago, I know it wasn't his first time but it was his first official show. I must say, I respect that designer hands down, and all other fashionistas should! he has definetly raised the bar and set South Africa on the another level.

His show had aa very afrocentric stylish theme, all the ladies were head scarfs, wore flawless make-up and bright red lips, oh did I mention that the models were not walking in the run-way? yes! They stood still and only moved for a couple of time... I'm proudly South Africa!

Signed Sealed and Delivered!

Proudly South African

This weekend was a long weekend due to the public holiday yesterday, as most South Africans know, it was Heritage Day, a day to showcase how proud we are of our South African culture and diversity. I must say, people wore thier different but very colourful traditional gowns it made me soo proud to be South African.

South African has come a long way in terms of the struggle, racial segregation and accepting another's differences in terms of skin colour, languages and yes cultural backgrounds, which country doesn't? The truth is, I am proud to be South African, a country that is rich in heritage, with the spirit of ubuntu and a past but most importantly, South Africa has a future a future that is literate free and open-minded.

One may ask what makes me South African? Well.. it is my culture, my languages and linguas. I was bought in the Xhosa culture although I am not 100% Xhosa but I have Xhosa in my blood, I can read, write and speak isiXhosa as my mother strongly wanted me to know my home language and never ever forget so I can teach it to my children in that way my culture will never be forgotten. AmaXhosa are the most out-spoken, funny, clever but very fiesty people, yes we Xhosa women we are known as husband stealers, good liars and cheats, maybe that may be true is for some people but I don't think so, all I know is that amaXhosa know what they want and are not afraid to go get what they want, some people call that being forwad but I call us go-getters.

South African has 11 official languges namely isiXhosa, isiZulu, SeSotho, sePedi, English, thsiVenda, seTswana, seTsonga, Afrikaans, seSwati and Ndebele, I can't speak all the languges but atleast I can undestand half of them. Being South African means you can push boundries, rise above all expectations and never sieze to amaze, first we fought apartheid, won the rugby World cup, won the 2010 bid and made it a success, while everybody was doubting we would, we deliver in soccer, cricket, Olympic and we are totally outstanding in Palympics, yes we have lil as well as major hick-ups here and there but which country doesn't? We are slowly developing and getting in the World stage level. Afterall Johannesburg is South African is Africa's New York, it is a place where many go with the hopes of making it big time or hitting it rock-bottom.

I might not know for sure whether I am Swati or Zulu but I proud to be Zulu, Xhosa and Swati as long as I am South African, a country that is alive with possibiloties.

I am a proud South African... Signed, Sealed and Delieved!!

The Beauty Of Loving Someone and Being Loved Back

I must admit I think I've in love and in lust once in my life time, if I may say so myself, it felt soo damn good for a moment I think I lost myself or broke out of my lil shell, it all depends on how you look at it and which perspective. The truth is love, I mean real love changes things, changes how you look at things how you do certain things and teaches you things you never knewabout yourself.

Loving someone is something else, but being in love with someone who loves you more is plain beautiful. Knowing that the one you'd give the world to in just a heart-beat will be willing to do the same for you and the same pace, wow! I know you must be thing that I'm in love with someone right now, but I'm not, I'm actually single and being single has taught me or reminded me rather of things I've totally lost track of, like myself, my worth, my dreams and ambitions but mostly my passion. I'm not implying that being in a reasons makes you lose who you are but the truth is sometimes you have to compromise who you are to accommodate the other person, guess what? I've learned to be selfish again but realised that love is a beautiful thing that needs to be cherished but only with the one you love, I'm not in love #StraightFace.

A good relationships is not built on lies, cheating and selfishness, its built on trust and honesty. Honestly we all want to loved although sometimes we are not loved by people whom we wish could love us but loved by the ones we least expect to love us, but Love is beautiful and we should embrace it instead of always trying to hide it to impress people. If you love some and that someone love you back, than you are in love, and that, that is very beautiful don't ever mess with it nor go out of your way to drive your partner away coz you might wake up and realise that you'll never love like that again and he/she is not coming back to you as the hurt was too deep.

Love those who love you, because once they are gone nothing is going to replace that special person nor take his/her place. Love those who love you and forget all those that don't.

PS
I Love Love!

Izikhothane

Izikhothane a popular name given to the youngsters in the townships with expensive taste, these children wear thee most expensive brands, food, clothes and even hire micro buses worth thousands of rands to drive them around while they brag about how much money they have got.

South African townships have some of the most poor people in South Africa, excluding people in the rural areas, there is a high level of iliteracy, but than again many businesses boom in these townships fast food, shebeens and clothing stores gain the most, people are raising thier standards of living. black people are getting credit almost every where they apply, I guess there is a lot of money in the "black market". An averarege black person in the township earns R5000.00 but spends more than they earn on brands, such as shoes, clothes, bags and accessories.

Izikhotha usually set a venue where by different crews will compete about how much they have, they brands they wear, they girls they date etc. Most of the youngsters who participate in such norms are usually high school children, they throw parties whereby they burn clothes, spill food around as a sign that they are not from poverty striken homes. What has this world turn into? you may ask, well it is just like that. The sad part is that these children  don't work and earn the money they waste and most of thier parents or guardians who support thier expensive lifestyles (financially), can't even afford all the things they buy, they are bought in credit, some parents don't know that thier children do such things but they hide what they do and ask for money for books, educational trips or choose not to eat during lunch time and save the money for months.

Some of the children come from extremely poor homes, whereby they only survive with grant money which they get from the government but still partake in these activities saying it boosts thier self-esteem and instantly gives them popularity and acceptance among thier peers and girls but what they want the most is respenct. The sad part about all this is that, most steal all the money that spend in brands such as Versace, Carvella, Levis, Guess, Nike, Addidas and many more. Most girls fall into a trap whereby they end up sleeping around these groups, sometimes its peer-pressure but at times it is what they call "LOVE".

My advice to parents is that they should monitor thier children's behaviour both at school and on the streets, when a child reaches his/her teen years, they reach a point where all they do is right as long as thier peers like it. Look at the books, check results, consult with teachers, know thier friends and mostimportantly know your children, what they like, thier goals, thier ambitions and instill good values in them so they don't go out there and do stupid things that would one day lend them in hot water. a child is taken to school to learn not brag about how much his/her family earns, it not thiers. Last but not least give kids pocket money that they will be able to manage for kids thier age.


                                                                        

Seasons

From an early age a child is taught about four seasons Spring Summer, Winter and Autumn. we know that Spring is the time where by plants reproduce pollen and reflorish, in Summer everything is bright, the plants, clothing and very hot outside, for South Africa, it is during Christmas time when people feel generous and have a lot of cash to spend, than there's Autumn when the changes, leaves fall off the trees, the grass turn brown, preparing for Winter, a very cold and dark season. Days are shorter and nights are long.

What parents and our teaachers from nursery school and on Television as well are all true, however what did not teach us about season, are seasons of life, that each and everyone of us go through. I  wish my parents, particulary my mama taught me the rule regarding seasons, the seasons of tears, laughter and joy, season of being still and a season of losing. Growing up I didn't really notice these seasons, I'd feel lonely for a while but be okay eventually, I'd lose things shoes, toys, books, and there would be a time whereby I'm always over the moon and in a good mood than again I'd find myself crying a lot and isolating myself from my peers.

What i know for sure is that, God does things in mysterious ways just to remind us everyonce in a while that he is God incase we have forgotten or lost our way, hence he gives seasons, seaons to prosper us and strengthen our faith in Him and ourselves. He purposely let us go through rough, tough, times, cry and be broken down to humble us. I don't wanna sound like I'm preaching but I'm just letting yo'll know what I think, afterall my blogs are all about my thoughts and ideas.

I woke up down today, felt like it was all too much for me and that I just can't take it anymore and that I feel like picking up my bags and going home but than it dawn on me, if I don't waan go though those trails and tribulations who should? Atleast I can take but be able to still wake in the morning with a head held up high to protect this dream I have, a dream of prospering beyond the limitations that people have already made, judging me by my mistakes and certian qualities that I don't have,  but I will fulfill the destiny that God the man above have created me for, plant my seeds while waiting for my season of tears, lonelyness, hunger and heartache to end, till than I will not give up, forget nor be comfortable nor lower my standards, I don't settle I go for what I want and I hit hard when I attack.

P.S
I'm A Believer

AmaBerete are terrorising the townships of South Africa!

During Bheki Cele's reign as the head of the police force invented the unite where by policemen in berets instead of hats like other units would work closely with the people. Their jobs are to protect the society and make sure that there is order in the townships reducing the crime rate.

People in the townships in South Africa don't have it as easy as people in the suburban areas, to be honest, when power or water shortages start, they are the first to be affected, that can go for days without any notifications, warnings or any form of communication from the departments that run these necessities, it been that way since from the apartheid, so people are sort of immune to it. people just make the best of what they have now, their freedom, making money, working or generally doing their day-to-day routines as they please.

The South African townships has a lot of problems, or rather things that are not going well but the  current problem that people have is the the manner in which police terrorise our township. the whole point of having police in the country is so we could have people to keep the country safe, enforce the law and arrest those who go against the law, but somehow people have lost faith in the SAPS (South African Police Service), policemen beat, rape, steal and demand bribes from the citizens. Didn't apartheid end and democracy begin in 1994? what were people voting for? for this? I don't think so. People voted for the ANC to gain freedom, freedom of speech, freedom to do what they want, whenever as long as their rights do not infringe on the other person's rights.

AmaBerete (the men in berets) are brutal they sets specific time people should walk in the streets at  night, they burge in tavern, bars, shebeens and just search people without warrants, just a week ago on 3rd degree a footage of the beating and searching people was taken and shown tin national television, police brutality needs to stop! although those people were drinking but that didn't mean they did not have rights, amaBerete need to be either stopped or go back to school and learn the laws that South African citizens have because by the look of things they do not have a clue... This is a democratic country, people cannot be mistreated just because you are police, you enforce the law but that doesn't mean that you are above it.