Love's Not a Losing Game

What is love? some say its a for letter would with soooo many means, it all depends on the person's perspective. I love my mama, dad, brother, sister, granny, aunts and uncles and friends as well...  but can the love I have for my family, friends and boyfried be defined the same? I don't think so.

First and foremost I didn't choose my family, didn't choose my mama nor dad, God gave them to me or me to them as a gift (it pretty obvious they did something right or wrong since they aren't married, and something right which is me, came out of it, it all depends on how you look at it), nevertheless, the love I have for the is totally different form the love I have for anything or anyone in the world, maybe I was programmed to love the because in one way or another I need them, with \out them I would'nt be the Ntokozo that yo'll know, with a dimple underneath my chin, tall structure, long ass feet and big lips, yep that's me.

When it comes to my love for my friends, since I'm the one who chose them and still have the choice to whether keep them or ditch them, the oes I have right now... I am content with. They are awesome, well dressed, loyal (so far), and funny by the way I love a good laugh, they are pretty naughty as well, so they match my personality. I can't say I wont be able to live without them but life would be ridiculously boring and dry with them, let  me just put it this way... they matter.

the love I have for my boyfrend? wait! Do I have one?? Well not really, so lets just say I may love a guy the guy I may be dating but his love is totally different from the love posotioned for family and friends, you just know you can be dumped anytime, a taller, more bootylicious and smarter chick may just come and sweap him off his feet, so you never really know how long your riegn may last, what I'm tryna say is that, we should love the guys and girls we are with but keep in mind that thier love may not be forever, yes at first it might seem like its forever but do remember that the person you're with is an individual and views as well as feelings, don't expect a person to feel what you feel, if you feel like commiting suicide don't kill your partner, he didn't say he wants you die for, he just said he loved you and if he doesn't anymore, what makes you think that you wont find another one? didn't you find him when you had lost all hope?

Most people say love hurts, love doesn't hurt, love is the most beautiful God had his creatures with, love makes us glow, go to heights we never though were possible, smile and laugh so uncontrollably that we feel ecstatic. The down side about love is the measures, we don't love people the way they love us or want hem to love us, that's why there are sooo many girls who turn themselves into what they are not with hopes of finding love, while the truth is no matter how ugly, dirty, down and under you are if its your turn in love, love will find you and knock you off your feet, be yourself, you'll be much happier, and remember to need those who need you.

PS
I Love Love <3

#wink

Sex sells??

I've always noticed how the big fashion brands always have the sexiest, the skinniest and tall models or the celebrities that optimise sexiness. Billboards are always has these sexy women and men who sell the brand theyare either naked, half naked in lingerie or are struting a very sexy or a seductive poses. But why? does sex really sell?

You probably think it's obvious that sex sells. That's a basic, unchallenged marketing belief. When it comes to advertising and sales, we naturally turn to eye candy, pretty women and men who are the ideal faces of persuasion. They smile seductively when they urge us to buy, buy buy! And we buy.

Obsesity is Taking Over

The combination of eating too much food or the wrong types of food and lack of physical activity are the leading causes of childhood obesity. It is a multi-factorial disorder, which is often associated with many other significant lifestyle diseases, such as diabetes, hypertension, cardiovascular diseases, osteoarthritis, sleep apnea and certain cancers.

 
Parents and care-givers play a huge role in a child's life and therefore can influence what children eat daily. As children are still growing, we need to slow down the rate of weight gain but not growth. Healthy lunchboxes packed from home can positively influence a child's nutritional intake.
A child also spends most of his/her day at school, and so their environment should be changed to a healthy one. The school tuck shop or canteen is a great way to start providing children with healthier food choices. The Heart and Stroke Foundation SA, has a School Tuck Shop Programme designed to address the problem of unhealthy eating amongst school children. The main objective of the programme is to enable children to make healthier choices when faced with a range of options.
 

To achieve this we strive to encourage school tuck shops to serve more nutritious snacks and meals. For more information about this programme. Making physical activity a priority and encouraging good habits in children from an early age is important and can help them to develop the skills they need to continue being active throughout their lives. Children should be encouraged to get involved in sports and be generally more active during break times, weekends and school holidays.

Children who are physically inactive are at an increased risk of becoming overweight or obese. They are also more prone to developing conditions like asthma, flat feet and joint pains due to their excess weight.
 
Ideas to support healthy lifestyles for children:

The School tuck shop/canteen should provide healthy food choices.

Establish a vegetable garden and get children involved in the planting and nurturing of fruit and vegetables. This will encourage learning about different fruit and vegetables.

The school can look into developing a "school orientation package" which will provide and educate parents or caregivers around healthy eating and physical activities for kids.

Kids should be encouraged to keep water bottles at their desk-enabling them to increase their water intake during the day.

Eat breakfast daily! Studies reveal that children who skip breakfast are less attentive and lack concentration during classroom time and also tend to choose unhealthy food choices during meal times.

A healthy lunchbox should consist of a whole wheat/ whole grain starch with a lean protein filling and a fruit or veg. Drinks should consist of water, a fruit juice or a low fat drinking yoghurt.

Choose healthier snacks. Examples include: reduced fat cheese slices on whole wheat crackers, low fat custard and fruit, baked beans on toast, rice cakes, low fat home-made popcorn, bran or fruit muffins, fresh or dried fruit and low fat yoghurt.

Limit TV time to less than 2 hours per day and get more active! Children should aim for at least 60 minutes of physical activity daily. It does not have to be done all at once, but throughout the day.

Parents or caregivers should be active role models and should have a positive attitude to being active. If children see you enjoying physical activity, they will be more likely to participate as well. Remember, balance an active lifestyle for your child with a healthy diet ¡V by limiting foods that are high in saturated fat, sugar and salt. Teach children healthy eating habits that will last their entire lifetime!

I Am A Die Hard Fashion Observer

Growing up I"ve always imagined myself as model, fashion designer, a stylist basically every carreer in fashion... guess it and I'll teel you that I've dreamnt of it. As I grew up I started realising that I needed to be able to draw but I couldn't not even to save my life so it changed one by one my dreaams fell apart becaus I lacked skills in almost all of them.

with that being said, I've  never stopped imaging myself walking in the streets of New York, Paris, London, Cape Town the biggets fashion capitals with my beautifal gowns nicelly drapped and my expensive bright shoes Jimmy Choos, Lious Vutton,  Micheal Koors, Alexander McQueen you name them... You may ask, has your dream in fashion dead? Hell no! I might not have enough money to buy what I want or need to look and feel like a fashionista but one thing is for sure, I will be in the new York fashion week one day rolling in with my shade, a big shopper bag, nails done, hair done looking all fancy and sexy at the same time!
P.S
I Love Fashion

The whole week I had been anticipating the Soweto Derby after months of not getting any... as a Chiefs supporter I wanted revenge and eve since I heard that the Orlando Pirates have been having problems with the coach, and after 3-0 defeat from the Cape Town team Santos, I was pretty convinced that Chiefs were going to take the three points fair and square.

I must admit I expected Kaiser Chiefs to win but to my surprise, the first 20 minutes of the first half Pirates dominated and used every little opportunity possible, they first goal was scored by Benny McCarthy, the second goal was scored by Andile Jali and than Benny punished us again with the third goal that the team with black and white kit, and the crowd roared as well as the vuvuzelas were not lost in the game... the Chiefs team looked tired and frustrated.

By then I thought that there was no hope until Simphiwe Shabalala raise all hope with the only goal for the gold and black team in the first half, whooo! My heart was pounding, I thought I was gonna lose it... the first half ended. On the second half Kiazer Chiefs dominated making passes as though they were the last passes and they depended on them, but the Pirates defenders were strong as ever and took no nonsense, than a change happened as soon as the young striker from AmaZulu Lehlohonollo Majoro scored the second one for Amakhosi... all hope was raised but still needed two more to beat the opposition.

I must admit though that I was really disappointed but the second goal consoled me, I’d rather have one goal missing than are two goals behind. Well played boys, even though some players were not up to scratch but yo’ll played your hearts out!

P.S
Khosi 4 Life

Capturing The Destroyer





I just saw The Joseph Kony video, I must admit, it left me heart-broken, and at the sametime wonder hoe could one person be so cruel to his fellow brothers and sisters? From what I heard, Joseph was one of the child soldiers inUganda once upon a time, but what I don't get is why does he make the Ugandean children go through all the hardships he went through?

I can't deny the fact that maybe while he was a child soldier himself he lost a lot, killed a lot of people and lost his parents as well as his childhood. He is not fighting for any course, he is just a killing machine that destroys children's future for nothing. I can appreciate the group who dedicated thier lives into helping these children because they are not just helping the American reputation but helping the future of Uganda which are these children who have thier childhood taken away from them by heartless individuals.

Although there had been criticisms, African critising the whole initiative stating that American use Africans for thier Public Relations,  that might be neccesaarily be true but that fact is THEY ARE HELPING, giving us the help that we as Africans are unable to provide for our fellow Africans who really need us. Other criticisms include the fact that the Ugandean war happened over 6years ago and that things are different now, stating that Americans are trying to potray Africa as a poor, underdeveloped continent that is doomed; I don't neccessarily agree but to some extent see thier faults but commend gratitute for thier efforts, living thier busy lives and risking losing thier lives just to expose the heartless bastard who finds joy in raping, murdering and destroying the future of Uganda.

Maybe you can't afford the real thing. Or perhaps you think you deserve a bargain.
So you head off to an online auction or a street corner to buy a fake handbag. After all, the fakes (also called copies, knockoffs, replicas and counterfeit goods) now are so good that even pros have trouble telling the difference. Who doesn't wanna look posh in Louis Vutton, Jimmy Choo. Christian Loubitouns, Chanel.. the list goes on and and on, gues what you can get them in the streets of down town Jozi anytime of the day, with different colours and designs and the price tag? not even the quater or the original thang.

Versace, Rolex, Polo, Ralph Lauren and many more, are not authentic brand-name products, of course. They are inexpensive replicas, but they make me look and feel good, and I doubt any of my friends can tell the difference. That’s why we buy knockoffs, isn’t it? To polish our self-image and broadcast that polished version of our personality to the world—at a fraction of the price. But does it work? After all, we first have to convince ourselves of our idealized image if we are going to sway anyone else. Can we really become Ray-Ban-wearing, Versace-bedecked sophisticates in our own mind, just by dressing up?

According to http://henriettashandbags.com,   by purchasing a designer fake, we are supporting illegal activity. There is even some evidence that part of the money for bombing the World Trade Center came from the sale of counterfeit goods. There is also documentation that these purses are made by child laborers in unsafe conditions. How do smugglers get around the law? One way is for designer fake handbags to be imported without the labels. Customs will not seize these purses without the designer labels because then there is no proof. The tags are then added on the goods in this country. Fines of not more than R250,000.00 and no more than 5 years in jail await these smugglers. The profits range in millions of dollars per years. If you want to help stop counterfeiters, you can report these replica handbags at the genuine websites of all the handbag designers such as Coach, Louis Vuitton, Dior, Gucci, etc.

Does Love Pay the Bills??

All too often, dealing with money matters within relationships is much like mixing oil and water. The two simply don't mix. Whether we're talking about family members, friends or others close to us, when money concerns enter into the relationship, all too often things turn out badly.

This is especially true when dealing with intimate relationships such as marriage. Issues involving money are presently recognized as leading causes of divorce. (It may also be argued though, that while finances are a significant issue in many breakups, money problems are often symptoms, not necessarily the root cause, of the problems in a relationship. But that's another day and another article.)

Why is money such an issue? I think, two reasons. One, I don't know many people who aren't passionate and opinionated when it comes to money matters, and two, because as crazy as it seems, a great many individuals still fail to thoroughly discuss financial matters before they enter into close personal relationships.

You'd think that we'd be much more willing to discuss an issue that most of us have such strong feelings about, but that's not often the case. We're either too timid to discuss money, too hesitant to bring up what may be a sensitive issue or one that could possibly present some challenges (ya think?), or we're just too naive to realize that things don't magically fall into place simply because we're in love.

Talk About Finances Before Jumping In - For heaven sakes, if you're contemplating spending the rest of your life with someone, don't you think it might be important for you to know more than a little bit about their financial condition? What debts are they bringing into the partnership, and just as importantly, what assets? How does this person feel about money? What are their attitudes about saving, spending, financial planning? Are they experienced in the aspects of money management? What were their parents' attitudes towards money? What examples or modeling did they have in terms of money-related habits? Does money seem to "melt away" in their possession, or do they hold onto every penny like it was the last piece of money on earth? What financial goals do they have? What other goals do you each have that may be dependent on your financial condition?

Getting the answers to these types of questions is not prying, and if the person with whom you're dealing feels that it is, then perhaps you've learned something about them already. These are all extremely important details to discuss with your partner before entering into any type of life-altering stage of a relationship, such as marriage. And if you're contemplating co-habitating with someone without benefit of marriage, it is just as important an issue, if not more so. I cannot stress this point enough. No matter how squeamish or uncomfortable you may feel about discussing finances, do this before you get involved in a situation that will be difficult, at best, to undo if things don't go well.

 

Swagg is for Boys while Class is for Men

 

 

Swagg-swagg is not the clothes that you wear but the way you wear them and wearing them confidently and not hypebeasting it. Some people buy nice clothes but dont know how to wear them and then they come off as a hypebeast ass bitch with no swagg.Someone can have the same dunks as you but if you wear them with jeans with a crease or with YOUR style that is swagg, but just throwing shit on and hopping it looks good is no swagg.

 

The things that define a person's character
how someone goes about things
-way someone sounds when they talk
-what they say when they say it
-Style of their movement
-the lasting impression you have of that person

Man grabs beautiful chicks hand gently when passing by her in a crowded train station, and then he says "I'm sorry I thought you was someone else" and then he breezes off. Of course hoping to see her again and start up a convo but he ain't gonna scare her a way like most fools by coming on too strong at first (unless you got that type of swag going on)... He'd rather her think about him and hope her mind builds curiosity. I call that Psychological swagga ....

 

What is meant by the line "swagg id for boys is that, boys were baggy jeans, oversized t-shirts and big sneakers with flat caps and flaboyent colours, that type of clothing is more for teenagers and young adults little boys are expected to wear such clothes because culture allows them to. There comes a time when a boys transforms into being a man, a well dressed gentlemen who fresses to impress, than he could be called a classy man. The diference between swagg and class is that swagg is for boys and therefore can be bought, while class is for men and can't be bought it is potrayed.

The Entertainment Industry Raise Our Expectation But Leave Us Frustrated

Every child is raised with the hopes of studying, listening to your parents so your could leave a longer life and the "do unto others as you would them do unto you" line. We all grow up with the hopes of being better people in the long run, be it a doctor, nurse, teacher, well known singer or a scientist as long as that specific career is going to make the community really proud of you. Those dreams often revolve around having a bigger house than you already live in, having a large closet full of clothes shoes and bags and driving the fastest, most expensive and well known cars.

The role that the media plays in our dreams is HUGE, the entertainment industry actually helps us put pictures on whatever we dream about, it shows us the houses, the cars, the clothes, the designers basically all the works, but never really shows the hard work that needs to put in in order for those dreams to come true, for example MTV, the channel showcases programmes such as Teen Cribs, Pimp My Ride, My Super Sweet Sixteen whereby teenagers are filthy rich, the do whatever it is that pleases them and even get into trouble but show absolutely no consequences for their bad behaviour. The entertainment industry teaches kids that if they want to they can easily be like their favourite celebrities, live large and spend on anything and everything whenever.

What they don't tell the kids is that to actually be successful you have to work hard, maybe fail but go back again and try even harder and the publicity is not everything, if you don't have anything to show for it, it will actually ruin your reputation and leave you jobless and broke... Look at Whitney Houston, Britney Spears, Lindsay Lohan and many more, the entertianment industry chew them and spit the like hot potatoes, even though thier were extremely good at what they were doing but fame ruin them in the long run, and that, the industry does show it just show the perks of being famous not how one is actually supposed to get there to successed.

Gold Diggers are Home wreckers

Once a joke or a cautionary tale, today gold-digging is being offered as a viable career choice for women, viewed with a new regard, even glamour. High-end cosmetics line Laura Mercier has launched The Gold Digger Collection this summer so we can all look like one. Walk down the local high street and you're likely to see a young woman in a T-shirt proclaiming "Golddigga", or, for those who prefer a more formal approach, "Hello, My Name is Gold Digger". You can purchase T-shirts online that say "Sugar Daddy", "I Love My Sugar Daddy", "Wanted: Sugar Daddy. Please Submit Bank Details Upon Application". This is supposed to be ironic, but would these same women wear a T-shirt emblazoned with "Prostitute"? The distinction is little more than semantic, and entirely dependent on the antiquated moral system in which marriage alone confers respectability upon women.
 

It's probably human nature to take the path of least resistance, but of all the imaginable options for women in the so-called "developed" world, what does it say when gold-digging re-emerges as an ambition for today's discerning young woman? Girls all over the country aspire, without a hint of embarrassment, to a life of leisure "earned" through marriage. In the space of a few years, Wag has devolved from being a term of derision into a beau ideal. There are websites to help gold-diggers meet their benefactors: Sugardaddie.com, launched in 2002, has more than 200,000 members. Golddiggers.uk.com promises to introduce men and women to their "ideal companion": "We all know every girl dreams of being both spoiled and pampered by a true gentleman but you simply are not in an environment that allows you to meet this type of man. What is amazing is that these young girls never really think of the work as well as the hurt thier gold digging ways have on the men's families, do they think about thier children, thier wives and how they feel about all the disgusting things they do??

Most women seek financial security and never want to go hungry nor in debt, but does seeking financial security really mean wrecking homes, creating trust issues and worth kids losing thier fathers or growing up in broken homes so you could buy a Lious Vutton bag and Jimmy Choo shoes? money doesn't buy happiness nor class but what it mostly doesn't do is buy a good conscience nor stop the little bitch called KARMA for biting you in the ass. #Wink!

The Disatrous Colour Blocking

This spring we welcome some of fashion's biggest, boldest and loudest trends. With electric colour, graphic prints, maxi lengths and bright white as some of the key looks to emerge this season, there's certainly no room for modesty. It's time to stand out from the crowds.

 In Spring 2011 fashion mixes blocks of colors in the outfit.  For example, you can pair an orange top with a green skirt and throw in a yellow belt.  Here are some great color block styles form the spring runways. recent fashion shows have showcased thier designs using the trend, or should I say "fad"  (the definition of fad is a style that only lasts for a little while, while a trend is timeless style).

lately I have been seeing people rocking the colour fad in the streets of Johannesburg with all sorts of colour blocking, colour blocking with dark colours, extremely bright colours, colour blocking with nails, using neon colours or wearing really dark colours and than topping theoutfit with a bright bag, shoe or accessories. We  have seen Prada, Dolce and Gabbana, Vera Wang, D-Squered and a lot more other designers let thier models strut thier stuff in the runaway, using colour-blocking.the down side about colour blocking is that not everyone can rock the trend and that you can't colour block everything, including hair!

I don't have anything against highlighting hair because it enhanceses the hair but adding totally different shades of colours to colour block on your hair is a total disastor. ladies and gentlemen colour blocking is only for your clothes, accessories and shoes... please don't over do things.