When The Love is Gone

Most girls would say, "the goodtimes I had with him are worth all the lonely nights I spend alone crying". In my opinion, they aren't worth it, if he really loves you why would he leave you so he could be with another girl? Why would he go for days without calling you? Why? Why?

Were brought up with the belief that men will always be men... but what makes a man? What makes him so special that he thinks he can break your heart as many times as he wants to? What sets him apart from other guys? What has he done to deserve you? Please don't say "he bought me a BlackBerry and regularly buys me airtime" coz that don't count. If he loved you, I mean really loved you, he spend time with you, wanna show you off to his friends, he'd suprise you with little gifts that cost R15.00 but are worth so much for your memories, he'd hol;d your hand in public and let you meet hisfamily, now that's a guy who loves you.

Love shouldn't be one-sided or more for one individual and lesser for the other... MOst sisters out there have loved so hard that theywould give thier hearts to these guys just so they could feel how much it beaats for them even if it meant they die afterwards butwould that love be returned? Hell No! instead the guy would rather love a heartless bimbo, with Brazilian weaves, loo\ng nails and no personality whatsoever. I've learned to let go, let him go, stop calling, stop texting, itmay seem like it'll kill you but itcertianly will make you stronger and make you realise that you can live without him, you can surrvive and that there is a guy who loves you morethan anything in this world.

When the love is gone, he'll realise that he loves you and hopefully you wont love him back, remember when you were younger and yourparents taught you to give your old toys to theunfortunate? Well thatwould be the time to do so in that case. LET HIM GO!!

Beauty isn't everything but being me is

Most people want to look perfect with make-up, lipstick and what ever that there is that is believed to make people look beautiful, afterall society taught us the conventional beauty is a girl with light complexion, big   eyes, small shoe size, short, and a petite body, now that's a beautiful girl.

I'm slightly dark in complexion, as tall as a boy, quite big, and you know what? I like being me, I prefer being than being "beautiful", beauty has it perks but being me is the best, I don't have to impress nor disappoint anyone by what I'm wearing, who I'm dating or with the friends I'm hanging with. Growing I always thought that beautiful girls have it easy, they get all the boys, have everyone sucking up to them but than I grew up and realised that life goes on whether you're pretty, ugly or you're just a plain jane like me, coz you don't have to worry if your looks are fading away or you Sarah the new grl in school looks better than you, you are just there and have nothing to worry about.

Friends Are Forever, Boys Are Whatever!

They say a girl needs three things in life: a man to make her weak, alcohol to make her strong and a best friends to help her when both make hit the floor.... I think that is true, we all need friends, afterall we are not islands, those special people that we laugh with and share valuable information with make life worthwhile, and at times even the reaason to wake up in the morning.

I'm not talking about fake bitches who laugh at your tragedies and make fun of things that break your heart, nor the people who pretend to be your friends so they could get fre rides, get VIP access or tabs in bars or nightclubs. I'm not talking about divas that go on and on about how pretty and fabulous they are and think that they deserve the one guy you truly love and would do anything to get an opportunity to seduce him, shag him, let you know about it and dump him like a hot potato. Frinds like that don't love you, they are with you just so they could have someone to dump thier problems on, so they can hear all your problems, insecurities and misfortunes so they could feel better about themselves.

Focus on friends that have your back at all times, the ones that remind you of your worthiness, that pray for you and love you unconditionally, with faults and all. True friends know when you're truelly smiling and when when you're faking it.

PS

I Love My Friends!

The True Value of Photos

I don't know if I'm wierd or something, but I take pictures of myself whenever I feel like it, and that happens often, especially when I feel good about myself. Three days ago I accidentally dropped my phone in the toilet, that just offically was the worst Monday this year for me!

Yes that phone was broken, went flat everytime I was expecting an important call but damn i loved that phone, took it from my mama, who took it from my uncle who bought it in L.A in 2007... eish! I'll just have to learn to be STRONG and get on with my life... I can get overthe phone dropping into water thang but one thing I can't seem to be dealing with is the fact that, #Deepbreath I lost all my pictures due to the fact that my memorycard deleted every picture in that card :-(! when reality struck I just could'nt help but try to blame my niece, SHIT I loved those pictures more than I probaly loved my first love.

Hopefully I"ll take better ones and create more memories and than capture them!

P.S
#SadForDays!

Love's Not a Losing Game

What is love? some say its a for letter would with soooo many means, it all depends on the person's perspective. I love my mama, dad, brother, sister, granny, aunts and uncles and friends as well...  but can the love I have for my family, friends and boyfried be defined the same? I don't think so.

First and foremost I didn't choose my family, didn't choose my mama nor dad, God gave them to me or me to them as a gift (it pretty obvious they did something right or wrong since they aren't married, and something right which is me, came out of it, it all depends on how you look at it), nevertheless, the love I have for the is totally different form the love I have for anything or anyone in the world, maybe I was programmed to love the because in one way or another I need them, with \out them I would'nt be the Ntokozo that yo'll know, with a dimple underneath my chin, tall structure, long ass feet and big lips, yep that's me.

When it comes to my love for my friends, since I'm the one who chose them and still have the choice to whether keep them or ditch them, the oes I have right now... I am content with. They are awesome, well dressed, loyal (so far), and funny by the way I love a good laugh, they are pretty naughty as well, so they match my personality. I can't say I wont be able to live without them but life would be ridiculously boring and dry with them, let  me just put it this way... they matter.

the love I have for my boyfrend? wait! Do I have one?? Well not really, so lets just say I may love a guy the guy I may be dating but his love is totally different from the love posotioned for family and friends, you just know you can be dumped anytime, a taller, more bootylicious and smarter chick may just come and sweap him off his feet, so you never really know how long your riegn may last, what I'm tryna say is that, we should love the guys and girls we are with but keep in mind that thier love may not be forever, yes at first it might seem like its forever but do remember that the person you're with is an individual and views as well as feelings, don't expect a person to feel what you feel, if you feel like commiting suicide don't kill your partner, he didn't say he wants you die for, he just said he loved you and if he doesn't anymore, what makes you think that you wont find another one? didn't you find him when you had lost all hope?

Most people say love hurts, love doesn't hurt, love is the most beautiful God had his creatures with, love makes us glow, go to heights we never though were possible, smile and laugh so uncontrollably that we feel ecstatic. The down side about love is the measures, we don't love people the way they love us or want hem to love us, that's why there are sooo many girls who turn themselves into what they are not with hopes of finding love, while the truth is no matter how ugly, dirty, down and under you are if its your turn in love, love will find you and knock you off your feet, be yourself, you'll be much happier, and remember to need those who need you.

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I Love Love <3

#wink

Sex sells??

I've always noticed how the big fashion brands always have the sexiest, the skinniest and tall models or the celebrities that optimise sexiness. Billboards are always has these sexy women and men who sell the brand theyare either naked, half naked in lingerie or are struting a very sexy or a seductive poses. But why? does sex really sell?

You probably think it's obvious that sex sells. That's a basic, unchallenged marketing belief. When it comes to advertising and sales, we naturally turn to eye candy, pretty women and men who are the ideal faces of persuasion. They smile seductively when they urge us to buy, buy buy! And we buy.